First Impressions Matter

Just like manners matter we believe that first impressions matter. So, with back to school this week we’ve been thinking a lot about fall preparation and how to clean up, get ready, and meet new people. In this post, we’re highlighting some considerations while prepping for back-to-school or any situation where first impressions may be long-lasting.

Courtesy: You’ll meet new people. Don’t forget to smile, make eye contact, and do a proper greeting (“good morning”, “shake hands” - whatever is appropriate for your situation).

Dressing for Success: A solid balance of what comfort and class is a good strategy here. Yes, comfort is key. That said, it’s imperative that one gives more than a five second thought as to that first day outfit. Make sure it’s clean, fits well, and is odor and wrinkle-free.

Body Language Basics: Often times, first impressions are made from body language not even spoken words. Be sure to stand straight, look people in the eye and SMILE!

Punctuality and Respect: Be sure to be there on time or a minute or two (not more!) before the start time. Timeliness is a crucial aspect of showing respect.

The Power of “Please and Thank you”. This should be obvious, but in our modern world where much communication is through devices, communication is diminished and there’s not as much practice with common etiquette practices. Saying PLEASE when asking for something and THANK YOU after receipt is certain to win some major first impression points.

Mindful Listening: There’s a reason you’re meetings someone new - be in a peer, teacher, mentor or friend. Listen to the words, and recognize the body language, to ensure the engagement is a positive one.

Name Game: A common fail in 'first impressions’ is not recalling the name that was said. We have some super fun strategies to share when it comes to remembering names!

Tech-Free Zone: As a sign of respect, put the device in do-no-disturb or silence mode. This will also aid in the above actions (remembering names, mindful listening, etc.)

Yes, it’s easier said than done! Join our classes to spend some time focusing on and practicing these essential skills!

Cards, yes card manners...

My kids are incredibly well skilled at playing cards. It’s something we do. A lot. Especially with my husband’s family, who loves to have a nice dinner and then we sit around the table and deal the cards out. Which brings me to this post….

(sidenote, I don’t mean this as a brag. we didn’t realize they were skilled at cards until we played with some friends with kids who didn’t know how to hold the cards. Eye opener!)

This past weekend (Happy belated 4th of July 🍉 everyone), we were at our favorite place and - once again - the tables turned and the cards were dealt. And, since I’ve been a bit more rigid with my kids’ manners as of late, I realized that Modern Manners matter in card games as well. So, here are a few tips I tried getting across to my kids. I’d love for you to comment and share more too!

1. Dealer deals to the left. This is just. simple. card. etiquette.

2. Don’t look yes. Wait. Be patient. Let the dealer do his/ her job without distraction.

3. Yes, do point out when a card slips into another’s pile. But really, you shouldn’t touch the card unless it’s yours. (use your words, not your hands)

4. Only touch cards that are yours.

5. Don’t TOUCH until the deal is dealt.

6. Games can sometimes get rowdy. Ok, but don’t forget your MODERN MANNERS.

The Etiquette of Returning Borrowed Items

Have you ever lent something to a friend (or sister), only to have it returned in a less than ideal condition, or worse, not returned at all? The act of borrowing and returning items is a common practice among friends, family, and neighbors. However, the process isn't always as seamless as we'd like it to be. Let’s cover basic manners when borrowing:

Timeliness is Key

When you borrow something, it's crucial to return it as promptly as possible. If you've borrowed a book, for example, aim to read it and return it within a reasonable timeframe. Letting borrowed items gather dust at your home for months on end can lead to frustration and disappointment on the part of the lender.

Return in the same…. or better … condition

It's crucial to return an item in the same condition you received it. If you've borrowed a dress, was or even dry clean before returning it. If it's a power tool, clean it thoroughly. Taking care of borrowed items shows respect for the person who lent them to you and increases the likelihood that they'll feel comfortable lending to you again in the future.

Communicate

If for some reason you're unable to return an item on time, communicate this to the lender as soon as possible. Most people are understanding if you explain the situation and provide a new return date. Communication is key to maintaining good relationships when borrowing and returning items.

Replace or repair

Sometimes accidents happen. If you've damaged or lost an item you've borrowed, the best course of action is to replace it or have it repaired. If that's not possible, discuss with the lender the best way to make it right. Don't just return a damaged item without explanation.

Be gracious

Lastly, always express your gratitude when returning borrowed items. A simple "thank you" goes a long way in showing your appreciation.

In conclusion, borrowing items is a practice built on trust, respect, and courtesy. By returning items timely, keeping them in good condition, communicating openly, dealing with damages responsibly, and expressing gratitude, you can ensure that you maintain good relationships with those around you. Happy borrowing!

Sidewalks & Streets... get out of the way!

Before moving to NJ, where our regular bike rides are to the beach carrying a surfboard, we lived in Alexandria, VA. Yes, right near Old Town. Actually, we were blessed to live in Del Ray first, and then moved to Masonic View Avenue to a home that literally overlooked the Masonic Temple.

As "‘city’ kids, our boys were raised in the Bob strollers and then learned to ride those cool scooters as soon as they could walk. We’d scoot all over - back and forth to pre-school, Old Town for some boba tea, and Del Ray for the local parks. As the boys got bigger, the rides transitioned to bikes. Pretty much all of our excursions were on foot or wheel.

One thing that we were pretty pesky about from the get-go was getting out of the way when we needed to stop. And stop we did. A lot. Whether due to temper tantrums, thirst, or the dog leash getting tied up… we certainly needed to stop a lot. So, what’s the point… We made sure to GET OUT OF THE WAY.

So, lesson here… pull over when you’re on a side walk or a street and need to stop. You don’t want to be in the way of others who may not be dealing with the temper tantrum, thirst, tangled leash. Be considerate.

And for those groups of kids making there way along the sidewalk or street who need to stop - teach them to politely move aside.